I think i'm losing him!!

Hi Amanda ,  Sweetheart what happened to the Amanda that started a new job and was going to experience life and no more tears ???  Honey I know this is hard for you , but again you two are no longer in a committed relationship with one another .  He told you he cares for you , but that he wants his freedom , to experience life being single so there will be no regrets later in life .  You said yourself he is 21 years and has not had much time being a single guy.   Of course when you were dating him you  " trusted him " ,  you were in an exclusive relationship with him then , you no longer are .   You said you are afraid some other girl will  " snatch him away"  , no one gets "  snatched away " , unless they want to be snatched away .  No one can make him do anything that he does not want to do and that includes you .  He's told you that you are smothering him by calling him all the time , stop calling him .  If you do not call him does he call you ?  Do you see him at all anymore ?   Sweetie , you can do this , go get a drivers license , get out of the house and make some friends .  You also need some time to experience life so you also do not have any regrets .  This does not mean that somewhere down the road you two will not meet up again .

Hi,
My friend Equus gave you an excellent answer, as shw always does, smart and sensetive, just perfect (gave her 2 thumbs up, I wish I could give here many more).  I would like to add one point: Have more confidence in yourself and in him, don't "force" yourself too much.... guys like to be in controll and feel they are leading.....
Best regards,

Amanda ,  My friend OronD has given you a mans perspective on this , a very good one , 2 thumbs up , listen to him and take it to heart .  OronD thank you for your kind words , I appreciate them and you .

Hi Amanda ,   Just to clarify your sentence , he does or he does not want to still talk to you ?   Does he ever call you and are you two seeing one another at all ?

Amanda ,  Honey , listen to me , better yet listen to him , he's told you the following .  He wants his freedom so he will have no regrets later in life ,  you are smothering him calling all the time, asking him questions where , who and when  ,  he says he doesn't know what to do anymore and can't deal with it and wants you off his back  , that he is all you have , so he thinks about you all the time and that is stopping him from being happy .   And you said  " I am not letting him out of my life " .    Amanda , the last thing you want is for him to be unhappy when he thinks of you .  You want to be a happy thought to him . If you love him the way you say you do then you certainly do not want him to be unhappy .   I am afraid you are going to push him farther away from you .  He gets to decide who he wants in his life , and when , just as we all do .  You cannot force yourself in someones life or force them to want to be with you .  Again this does not mean that somewhere down the road that you two will not get back together .  What exactly is   " we still hangout "  is he picking you up and you guys go out on a date sometimes , or is there a whole group of you hanging out together ?

If you are trying to have a pity party, you now know there's no guests at your table. What do you want us to tell you?? Whose fault is it you are in the shape(or out) you are in?? You got big issues girlie, and beside being insecure, lazy, and a dept store that's empty, I don't know what he does want with you..beside the booty. If you don't like this answer, get off your behind and do something constructive beside wine.