Hello all, I am wondering if anyone can give me ...

Lying?

Emotional Abuse?

Drinks too much?

Get out of it as fast as you can.

Continue with your meetings with the counselors and listen to them.

Dig this... The Desiderata

-- written by Max Ehrmann in the 1920s -- 


Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, 
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender, 
be on good terms with all persons. 
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; 
and listen to others, 
even to the dull and the ignorant; 
they too have their story. 
Avoid loud and aggressive persons; 
they are vexatious to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, 
you may become vain or bitter, 
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. 
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. 
Keep interested in your own career, however humble; 
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs, 
for the world is full of trickery. 
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; 
many persons strive for high ideals, 
and everywhere life is full of heroism. 
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. 
Neither be cynical about love, 
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, 
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years, 
gracefully surrendering the things of youth. 
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. 
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. 
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, 
be gentle with yourself. 
You are a child of the universe 
no less than the trees and the stars; 
you have a right to be here. 
And whether or not it is clear to you, 
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God, 
whatever you conceive Him to be. 
And whatever your labors and aspirations, 
in the noisy confusion of life, 
keep peace in your soul. 

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, 
it is still a beautiful world. 
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Leave, it only gets worse from here

Abuse starts emotionally then it will lead to physicial abuse. get out now while you still can!!!!

hey man, I don't know you or your partner personally so im not sure how much advice i can give. I would say you should leave him, let him understand he's hit rock bottom, then he'll realize that he misses you.

~sck!

I really think it's HIM that needs the therapy. Seriously. It's good that you have found on outlet with counciling for your own mental state of mind. Did it occur to you that big huge red flags should have been waving in front of you during the 1st 18 months after you rather casually mentioned him "cheating a few times?" Of course it hurt you! And of course he will confess his undying love for you and he "says" he'll never do it again (after he was caught). I see a high roller. I see a player. Do you have any sort of a gut feeling about this? I think you do. The first 18 months should have given you a preview of  "whats in store". We won't even talk about the rest of your question. That alone should have shown you the caliber of boy you are hooked up with. Blinded  by love is a strange ailment to have and I think you may be showing some signs of this. How much crap will you swallow from this man? He may be a serial cheater. Its part of his M.O. This man is the source of your agony. This man has driven you to seek professional help, dear. How does that make you feel? Suggest that he go with you next time. Stay focused on his reaction to this. That should tell you something. Its sounds like he's got more secrets than Liz Taylor. Please write back.

#1 - cheated on you.  You should have gotten rid of him then... they don't change.   He is emotionally controlling you.  Your counselor should have seen this and advised you properly early.  Ditch the dumbass.  He is the one that needs the counselling.  5 years...get on with your life without him, unless he is willing to go to a DIFFERENT counselor with you. 

Spider,

If he is talking about killing himself, it is time to get out and fast. If you have been up on the news lately, most people who comtemplate suicide and actually carries it out, don't want to go alone, they are taking as many people with them as they can.

He needs professional help. If he refuse to get the help that he needs, let the wind hit you in the back and run as fast as you can.

Be Blessed