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jadis89

I'm a 19 yr. old college student still ...

I'm a 19 yr. old college student still psychologically traumitized by the incestual sexual abuse/activity i suffered as a child. How can i overcome this? Just thinking about wat i submitted to as a child(b/c i didn't know any better) makes me cry and hate myself.

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Posted 2009-07-14T03:40:49Z
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The Wisest Mom

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Greetings Jadis: First and foremost, please do NOT hate yourself, there is absolutely no reason to. Most of these sick abusers go after children, for the very reason you stated, the child doesn't know better!

I am sorry this happened to you. The fact it happened will never go away, but that person will never be able to harm you again.

The best possible recommendation I could extend to you is counseling. Please contact a therapist who specializes in this field and please make an appointment with him or her, sooner the better.

In the interim, please do not hate yourself and please try not to cry. It is no doubt hurtful, but it is in the past and you will not be harmed again.

Please check in with us and let us know how things are going for you, we care! We will also try and check back with you as well.

All will be OK sweetie, count on it!

TWM

Posted 2009-07-14T04:24:40Z

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jkgrandma

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Turn off the television and teach your children how to think.

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Hi Jadis, I am so sorry that happened to you. Please know that it was NOT your fault - and there IS help out there.

Here are some links to sites with information for adult survivors of sexual abuse. Perhaps one of them will help.

ascasupport.org

dcrcc.org/support_counseling/.../C121/emotional_effects1

www.rvap.org/pages/adult_survivors_of_childhood_sexual_abuse

rainn.org/.../adult-survivors-of-childhood-sexual-abuse

Take care,

jkgrandma

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nomorepbreaks

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"LEARNING is fundamental!"

God, Country, Self..in that order.

VISION, Change and Education=PROGRESS

Dear jadis89,

You need to find a good counselor. This will help you understand the past, get rid of the shame, guilt and fear so you can begin a new life. Keeping this inside will prevent you from moving forward and will rob you of the happiness you deserve.

The first step is to make the call

Abuse of a child is not acceptable
It's ok to cry
Blame the abuser, not yourself - you were an innocent victim, a child
Learn to love yourself and nurture the child within you

Best wishes...please contact us and let us know how you are doing.

Posted 2009-07-14T06:04:24Z

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jadis89

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Thank you very much for taking the time to read my post. I know that now is the time in my life for me to finally deal with this. I came on this site to find answers and advice, so thanks very much :)

Posted 2009-07-14T06:10:23Z

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jadis89

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thanks so much, i will defnetly be following your advice

Posted 2009-07-14T06:12:38Z

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jadis89

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thanks for posting the support links for me to go to, i really appreciate it ;)

Posted 2009-07-14T06:13:52Z

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The Wisest Mom

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Greetings Jadis: I promised to check back with you. I see you have received wonderful advice and I see you've stated you would follow it, this is terrific news!

Please let us know how you're doing and take good care! We are here for you.

TWM

Posted 2009-07-15T02:43:58Z

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