Some one help me help her.

The only thing I can say is to take it slow and see where it goes. Don't expect anything. Don't force your way into her life. Just be there for her as much as she allows you to be. She obviously has some issues in her lif that she may be working on, let her. I was told that women don't want men to fix their problems, just be available when she calls. In time maybe things will be the way you want it to be. Be patient.

Levi,

   I don't think you'd like to hear my answer.  You said she is a troubled woman, a recovering alcoholic, and has aversion to sex.  Life is too complex even without these problems with your partner to be.  I would advise you to move on and make your life simple,  otherwise you'll regret because you'll end up miserable if you'll stick with her.  You could just be a friend to her.

    there are other good women out there without too many problems.  Life is how you make it.

Take care and good luck.

At this point in her life who knows what tragedies has happened to her.  So if she if frigid I would imagine she has been sexually assulted at some time in her life.  You have to open up communication and build trust so she can confide in you.  And believe me it's going to take som therapy for her to have the courage to heal.  There is a good book about it and guess what?  It's called ' The courage to heal'  If she's gutsy enough to look at it and I am correct she will find herself in this book.  If you really love her,  you will need a lot of patience,  If you don't really love her,  be her friend and don't push.  Hope that helps