Below you will find few of the main reasons why men cheat.
• Biology - a man is almost pre-programmed to seek and find so that they can pro-create. They are taught to conform to the rules of society, but sometimes the “animal instincts” come out. This teamed with some of other outside influences and he is doing what he was meant to do! OK, I know there is no excuse for cheating, but there are biological factors that are embedded.
• Opportunity – It has been stated that attractive looking men are more likely to cheat than the less fortunate. Why? Well, the more times the chocolate dish passes in front of you, the more likely you are going to grab one for a quick bite. (chocolate yummy!)
• Pressure from their friends – After a date with a new girl, the first thing friends want to know is, “Did you do it?” That IT is what they care about. So when they know about that girl at work that is into your man, they CAN put some (imagine this some as being a mountain) pressure on him to “just do it!”
• Feed his man ego – Yup, there is such a thing as “Man Ego” and sometimes it calls out “FEED ME! FEED ME!” and guess what, here comes that tray of you know what!
• Bored in a relationship – Many couples are guilty on giving up on all the things that they fell in love for. Without realizing it, the thing they do the most is argue and bicker. Well, this can get old for both partners, but since we are talking about why men cheat, I will say that this opens up a man’s mind to explore what really is out there. Even though it may seem easy enough to just share with their partner what they are missing, they go out hunting to fulfill their needs that have been misplaced at home. Sometimes what they are looking for is emotional and other times it’s strictly to fulfill their sexual desires.
• Gratification – men are visual creatures that are easily stimulated. In general this is also biological, and the many stimulating encounters drive them to look for that gratification to put them at ease (if you know what I mean!). While these ARE popular reasons as to why men cheat, they are still not accepted or right. Because of the importance we as a society have placed on monogamy in general, cheating can destroy families and can wreck havoc on the individual that was betrayed.
I hope this has given you a little bit of insight as to why men cheat, now it’s up to you to spot the signs that they are cheating.
No one deserves to be cheated on so hopefully you are in a healthy relationship with a strong man that will fend off the influences that lead to cheating. Good luck!
Leona, You need to find a strong man, and not the wimps you hang with now. Find a better crowd of people to be friends with and stop crying over your unhappy lot in life. You created your unhappy lot, and it is up to you to change your unhappy lot. Bitching to the people on yedda and doing your snotty name calling is not going to change your life. The only fool is a fool who will not try to better themselves. You are not trying. You are only bitching and complaining.
Dr. Phyllis PC
