You may want to try the shampoos & conditioners made for curly/frizzy/coarse hair...also, constantly blow drying your hair is not helping matters any!!...You should get a hair dryer with the 'cold'button on it; then use the cooler air during the last few minutes of drying..this'd help with the flyaways....but DO use the shampoos & conditioners for your type of hair; Vive is a good brand, as is SunSilk..I have coarse gray hair and they help it a lot....You may also want to consider getting a perm with very large rods, that would help the curly hair stay a little calmer; if you do this, you MUST remember not to shampoo after the perm for THREE DAYS.....that's how long it takes for the hair to 'dry' down to the molecular level..............hope this helps!!