My boyfriend just lost a loved one & I don't know how to be there for him emotionally.

Bree, he's expecting you to pass some sort of test for which you have to guess at both the questions and answers. He's had a family tragedy and you've gone from;

"he told me that he was seriously thinking about getting me an engagement ring before this happened"

to;

"there is no way he is going to do that now. he says I can never change."

What does it mean when he says he was seriously considering getting you a ring. Isn't he supposed to get down on his knees and ask you? I know it's a little bit old fashioned but from the way you put it, I'd question how "serious" he was about this ring.

Since you asked for advice, tell him you're sorry he feels the way he does, but since he's made up his mind, you feel that each of you should go your separate ways. Be prepared, he may agree with you, but from the sounds of it you don't want this relationship anyway.

well this is hard for the both of you to deal with and you can only stand by his side.don 't feel that everything is over cause you don 't know what to do.You can make him feel better with out baking a cake.Hold him and tell him  that you are sorry for his lost and you love him and want to do what ever you can to make it right between the both of  you.

just talk to him one on one open up to him tell everthing u can to make him fell beter.thats want most of us guys want is that are grilfrineds just being there talking to us about not just saying im a shoulder to cry on thats the wors thing to say to a guy when he lose a loved one

Honestly, under different circumstances, I'd say this guy is a real bitch, but now that he is undergoing a loss which is the biggest stress one can ever experience, I'd say, don't think about yourself and your relationship, but, first of all, think about him, and what would make him better. Psychologically, there are stages that one has to go through, from denial to grief to acceptance to finally healing. He's probaly at the denial stage, willing to forget what has happened. I am not sure what is the best behavior, but do try to cheer him up by discussing a book, going jogging in the park, maybe even going on a trip. Don't turn away, and, very likely, he'll appreciate after some time your efforts.

Sigh, complex he is no different from all of us.  Our experiences mold us, shape us or misshape us however inside each of us is the need for love, understanding, acceptance and fellowship.

Loosing what loved ones????  Mother, father, sister, brother, dear friend????  There is a scale made-up showing the pressure put upon us when we loose people or positions or things in our lives.  It is pretty true to form.  Top on the list, loosing mother, father, wife, husband, child.  Then comes job, health etc. etc. etc.  It is difficult to walk in the shoes of another but it is far from difficult to listen, not only with your ears but with your heart when someone is opening up to you.  It is not about us.  We can never love or be loved if everything of importance is about us.

Appears he is lacking some form of communication with you on a deeper level and my dear I am not certain you are capable of obtaining that insight and respect of another's pain.

Perhaps it is best you go your way, you are more concerned with your ring than his pain.  Forgive me if I have overstepped my bounds into your feelings.  However you do not seem well suited for one another.

You need to grow emotionally and Spiritually as do we all.