Hi,
I hope your boyfriend understands that you're in a lot of stress at work, that you're trying to get another job, that you bought a house together so you probably have some financial pressure because you both have financial responsibilities together.
Couples who just met and/or don't have financial responsibities together naturally are not in a lot of stress to start with. The moment couples start living together, they finally get to know each other better and a lot of times , one or both see the real person and some of these knowledge are not that pleasant. So
because of this, the intimacy is no longer as intense as before and both or one of the couples tend to think that the honeymoon is over, that they don't have to try to please each other or that they don't have much time for each other due to the responsibilites that they face.
Sometimes, depression sets in because one of the parties is overwhelmed with a
lot of problems at home, work or with financial pressures or with one's profession.
You say that you love your boyfriend. If you truly love him, you have to find time to show your love by physical intimacy whether you feel like it or not. That's the measure of real love, doing things that pleases the other inspite of how one feels.
Eventually, when you see him happy, you'll eventually be happy knowing that you overcame the temptation not to show him you care, and also you showed him
your selflessness.
Please read the book of Dr. Laura Schlessinger, she is a marriage counsellor and a Psychotherapist . She has helped a lot of couples who are experiencing the same. Her website is : drlaura.com. The title of the book is The Proper Feeding of
Husbands.
Take care and please do your best to make him happy. That way , you'll be happy too.
