True love torn apart:-(!!! HELP PLEASE!!!

STOP! I mean it, STOP THIS MINUTE!

What do you think you are doing? You are NOT in love with this man, you are in love with the IDEA of being in love with him. You do not even KNOW him!

You need to stop this outside relationship IMMEDIATELY and focus on the important thing in your life - your family, especially your CHILD!

Here is what I suggest you do:

~ Immediately break it off with your Internet lover. Do not have ANY further contact with him. I mean NONE - no phone calls, no letters, no email, NOTHING!

~ Immediately make an appointment with a therapist to find out why you have such low self-esteem issues that you would drop what you have in order to focus on a complete stranger.

~ Communicate to your husband that you are unhappy and you'd like to work with him to rebuild your marriage and rekindle the love that you once had for each other.

Finally, be thankful that your conscience allowed you to have this opportunity at a second chance with your husband and your child. Don't blow it!

It's not true love, if he doesn't know you. You are going to ruin your life over lies. End it! Get out of what you're doing, and work on liking who you are - Not some fantasy. Real men don't like fantasy women - we want real women.

Hi, Jkgrandma and chucho gave you excellent advice. You just don't know if this man is also lying to you about himself, about his wife. Beware, there are people who scam women. Hopefully he hasn't asked you any money yet at this time. Please wake up. Don't be fooled by this person. He can tell you anything you want to hear. Try to mend your marriage by going to a marriage counselor. Don't make a great mistake. Focus on your family.

Thanks for inviting me DB Lady. Let's see??? Two unhappy Married people. What a shocker!  But wait... (With children by their spouses), madly inlove because of colorful stories they've told eachother on the computer, and they've never met... ? 

True love, you and your husband have been together for a long time. Marriage gets stressful and boring sometimes, but one of you has to take the bull by the horns and fix this before you end up in a lot more pain and trouble than you think you're in right now. You see, the grass isn't always greener on the other side.. in fact sometimes there's no grass there at all! Just step back and really think about what you're doing.

One thing I can tell you that I think a lot of women miss, is don't leave all the responsibility on your husband to restore your unhappy Marriage. There are so many things that you can do. Be a classy wife, keep your priorities strait. So many people run away from their Marriages when the going gets tough... try to be stronger and more clever than that, hold on to your husband, keep your family together, and don't take 'no' for an answer. You can do it if you really want to... and actually enjoy every minute of it!

If you need some great tips on how to keep your head strait and get that passion back into your Marriage, you've come to the right place here on Yedda! Some of the most helpful every day people are right here to give you great advise on all your questions, without bringing you down. Don't bail out on your Marriage. And don't trust that "Mr. Doctor" is bailing out on his either. Your lies, his lies, who cares? Don't trust in anything right now except God and your Family.

Hi, ------ You received excellent answers (thumb up each). No offence, please, but this is unreal ! (no to write “childish”). Two adult people planning to marry without seeing each other ? How do you know that you (both) get along together ? How do you (both) know that you love each other ? Isn’t it the classic case of 2 lonely bored people who need each other as a way to get out of their unsuccessful marriages ? On top of it you lied to him and that is bad…. And I have the feeling he lied to you too (are you sure he is an M.D ?). Please, as an adult a married woman and a mother you must be more realistic and NOT to live in your dreams and lies. My advise: Meet him, tell each other all the truth, if you feel (give it time…. Not the 1st meeting) that you want to stay together for good ONLY than start planning your future…. Not 1 second before. --------- Best regards,

What woderful answers you have received from some of MY "cyberspace friends"! I agree with them all so I will not reitterate... I will share with you a story about Profit Bob though here in our cyberspace land. He made little caricatures (jkgram - spelled it right) of Skitch and I and we are in his garden in Michigan. It is his imagination at work of how people (appear) to be. Not that I am really a bear with webbed goose feet and a gaudy parasol nor that Skitch is Cousin It. We come to cyberspace which is not true reality. We help people together, we interact, we have grown to know each other over time as well. We are not going to jump on a plane and go marry someone we never me lest break up 2 marriages (at least not that I know of). If you would like to see Skitch and I in a garden go to youtube and type in "Michigan Anthem". You will see a plant...that's the one and I believe it is the first one. I am proud to be a web footed teddy bear with a gaudy parasol in Bob's garden with my friend Skitch who I have never met and probably never will. Have I grown attached to these people? You bet! That's why I am here.

Wait a minute, Maya.  You mean that's not really the way you look?

I am crushed!!! That sure ruins my Christmas plans of some tiny new dresses for you and some dipilitory items for Skitch!

True Love!-

  My friends have said it all.  Relationship is never built to stand with a foundation of lies.  What happens on the internet is never to be trusted until you have also experienced reality for a significant amount of time.  And, the  most important, never get involved with a married person, or get involved as a married person, whether on the internet, or in real life.  This is, absolutely, hands down, the worst thing a person can do.  End unfinished business so that you are free to start a new relationship if that is what you decide to do and expect the same of your partner before allowing emotions to grow.

Elena

Elena, well put. p.s. It snowed on the plant which has bloomed in Michigan. There is a new post. Check out you tube and type in "Alisson". Turn on speakers too....