Suggestions needed to turn husband's attitude.

Thanks for the advice.

Actually, I can bear him for whatever he does. But he is not so matured to realise that a husband should not put down the dignity of his wife even to his parents. He calls up & tells his mother that I am yelling at him and his mother instead of telling him that matters between a couple should not brought to the parents but supports him that he is right & both of them poses me as a impatient shouter but both dont realise for what I am getting anger.

What pains me is that he never realises that he should not get the issue to his parents even if I am very bad. Becoz I am his wife. At this situation, they all(my husband & his parents) join & blame me for not being patient at their son making me feel that I am a third person to him. Both their parents & him dont think that I have all the rights to scold him or whatever & he has the rights similarly. Instead they think that being a girl, I should have patience & whatever he says I should not get anger & tell him anything. Both of them dont understand that parents should not involve in a couple's problem. Atleast my husband if he really loves me should understand this.. I have tried several times telling him all these things but he is so adament that he wants me to be like as he is expecting fulfilling both his & parents wishes, then he will automatically change..it seems.

I lost my mother just before marriage & xpecting some affection from my in-law & atleast from my husband. But they never care for this .What they have is mere expectations. I should fulfll those...then they will get some affection...I hate this mentality...My well versed husband says these things.

And moreover, I have tried to be silent & avoid speaking with him to show my anger. He never cares about that. He comes & talks to me & If I dont talk he will try speaking to me 1 or 2 times & then,leave it claiming that I dint talk & he will not talk to me. Again  now I have to go & convince him. He has ego to come & talk to me & doesnt know to show his affection. He doesnt speak words of affection. He doesnt know them.  I am really fed up of him & very much difficult to change his attitudes. Somebosy should tell what & how the husband-wife's relationship should be.....but dont know how far he will take that into account & there is nobosy to tell him the intimacy that should be developed between a couple as both of his parents & him speak that a girl should surrender everything(thoughts,...)to her husband & should serve... I am really sick of this & that too a guy in this 22nd century who had been abroad also...