I believe my stepson, who is 14, to be gay. Over the last two years I've found where he has been on unsavory websites (Vampire Rave) posing as an older man and having explicit chats with 19+ year olds. The first time I let his grandmother know since she is the other family member with a computer so that she could block this website. I asked her not to confront him b/c I didn't want to embarrass or "out" him. In her general nature, she did the opposite of what I asked- went to his mother's house, took him to her's, questioned him (He lied and said his friends had his password,) made him delete his account and then had him call me to tell me he was not gay and that his friends had typed all the messages.
Now I've found that he's on another one called Vampire Freak (and there are a lot of freaks!)--again he's posing as a 16 year old (Using a fake name, fake hometown, etc!) and has an internet boyfriend that's 19 and in another state. My biggest concern here is his safety...I believe he texts with his cell phone and possibly now has access to the internet from his phone, as well. He's been on this site at 1, 2 and 3 am. I am not interested in embarrassing him again...I'm leary of telling my husband b/c he doesn't approve of that lifestyle, his mom is a complete unstable nut so I certainly don't want to say anything to her and the grandmother, I feel, betrayed me last time in this. So WHAT do I do? I can't protect him in both homes, obviously....so what is the best course of action here??
There has always been turmoil in the custodial parents home (a circus) and their mom tries cause as much in our home when she can. A lot of craziness in other words. Counseling is out b/c the mother refuses to let any of them talk to anyone...and since my husband is noncutodial he has no rights when it comes to that.
