Believe it or not, but my son and his fiancee ask my advice for many things. I appreciate this and try to do a lot of research before advising them on some issues. However, they have a problem and I am suggesting counseling but just wanted to ask here first for any info I can glean. The thing is, my son is a very stoic young man, with a very high pain threshold and who does not like to attract attention. If he is hurt, he tends to downplay the injury so as to not attract a lot of attention and then get it treated quietly. His fiancee, however, is just the opposite and has a very low pain threshold. If she has a bad headache, or recently a sinus headache, she will want to be taken to the ER and reacts in a very loud manner, sometimes screaming in pain, if not treated quickly. My son just does not know how to handle this. He was brought up in a home where everybody was taught to "put on a brave face" and not scream in pain but to be more of a "silent sufferer". I know that is not good either, but that is how it is. His fiancee is a screamer when it comes to pain and he just finds that her uncontrollable and inconsolable pain, which usually always turns out to be a very minor thing, well, insofar as a sinus infection can be minor, extremely difficult to handle. He just does not know what to do. In other ways, she is very tough and strong, except when it comes to pain. She is very, very sensitive to any kind of pain. How do you think they can handle this problem? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. In all other ways, they get along just great.cell@gmail.com
