Shyness or social phobia?

I wouldn't start self diagnosing myself with a social disorder yet, if I were you.

If I read you correctly, you consider yourself shy but you are able to interact socially with people and enjoy yourself when you do so, is that correct?

And the major problem you're having at the moment is that your friends must always initiate contact, because you hate calling and suggesting plans?

Let me ask you, are you willing to suggest getting together if you communicate in OTHER ways (instant messaging, texting, letter, carrier pigeon)?

If so, then it sounds as though you just don't like being the one to initiate stuff over the telephone. Okay, so what?

Now, if it bothers you and you'd like to change it; then start small.

Try pretending it's your job. Pretend you are the liasion for the King of Pottsylvania and you must arrange and organize activities on his social calendar. Next week, the King would like to attend a (pick an activity you want to do) with his loyal subject (pick a friend you'd like to do it with).

You must call the King's loyal subject and set the event in motion.

I know that's a little wierd, but it MIGHT help. Worth a try, isn't it?

Hi, sounds pretty normal to me. 

 Don't give it another thought.  Do what you feel like doing at the moment.  Some days you won't feel like sitting inside at the computer, some days you will. 

 I think some of us try to analyze our lives too much. Relax and enjoy your days, with friends, alone...whatever.  RELAX Friend!  NJoy

It could be simple fear of rejection. Some people feel realy bad if they ask a friend to do something and are turned down so they don't ask. They wait to be invited, that way they know they are welcome. There isn't anything wrong with that unless it is keeping you from participating in things you want to do, or causing real problems with your friends and family. If it is realy bothering you, see if someone you realy trust will let you "practice" on them. Ask that person to do things with you, knowing in advance what the answer will be. If you are embarassed just tell them your nervous about asking someone out and are trying to build up confidence, almost everyone can relate to that one.

hmm I guess that one is just a simple shyness because you have your own scheds to work on. you said that you can still socialise with your friend. so I think there's nothing wrong with you there just do the stuff that you usually feel like doing it.