To me Leona (I know you dont like me, but who does? Dont bother me!) Sex IS just sex! I dont know if you read a queston I posted about a month ago about my husband wanting oral sex, that I refused to give. We are no longer together, but before we broke up, I suggested that he go sleep with someone else. I offered him to get what he needed from another woman, because I know sex is what it is, sex. Whatever makes people jealous when their mate cheats or sleeps with someone else, I dont have it, and Im glad! As long as I know who I am, and I love ME, then I couldnt care less about what you do with your sexual organs, as long as they dont bring me AIDS etc. Which is why I made dude use a condom thoughout the whole marraige! Thats a whole oter story though! I dont think everybody feels like me who says sex is just sex, but when I say it I mean it!