Recluse in Italy....Help me get my ex boyfriend out of my head!

Lostinitaly, Buford gave you some good solid advice , take it and move on with your life . Thumb up Buford .

I agree moving would be your best bet. You need to get away from him so you can live a normal life without having to be reminded of him daily. If moving is not possible, try putting more effort into your current relationship. Sometimes we hold ourselves back without even realizing it.. focus all your attention on him & don't worry about your ex. Remind yourself of why you left him instead of thinking of the good times. You know you deserved better or you would have stayed with your ex.. allow yourself to find better & move on.

Imight differ abit with my collegues here.for one you can't love someone without being friends first.secondly you can't just let go something you cherished for a long time with just a glance.it would take time.even if you travel without you letting it go,it won't help.and by burning or discarding ecverything you shared won't help either,but those are my own views,To me the best way to deal with this issue is to go back to where it started,FRIENDSHIP.If it were me for example i'd gather courage and meet my ex,straighten things out,lay my cards on the table and discuss the matter to finality.The reason am saying this is because when you started out with him,there were three major things that brought you together,(a)friendship(b)liking(c)love.Putting all this into consinderation,the only two things that i see you have done away with are love and liking,but your friendship is still there and very strong for that matter.that's why you can't let it go.

So for you to have your piece of mind and be able to love 100% again,is to let this friendship go.how you may ask?you already know what you want,found someone else to love,to achieve this you ought to meet your ex and iron things out.that way he will set you free and you will be able to love again.no need to move away or discard the things you shared coz after letting it go,everything will go to the archive for a good memory.Hope am collet on this,but i stand to be collected.

Good. Some of the fog is clearing. After a breakup, a little time passes and your mind has a chance to sum things up. Only now can you see the bad in this man. Before, you were taken by his looks and the hot new relationship, ignoring all the bad things he put you through. Next time, look for those signs early. The late arrivals, where is he, why won't he call...all that means is PLAYER. In a relationship, you should feel calmness and contentment, not anxiety and worry or insecurity. I hope you are with the right one now. Just be careful that its not a rebound thing to get your mind off the player. Then YOU become the player. Life is interesting, huh?

I still think time is the key here. Those feelings are normal...very painful but normal. It's like a heaviness in the house. You look around at things and you can still feel him there. He must have really had an impact on you. Sometimes all you can do is put one foot in front of the other and keep repeating until one more day has past. Its not quick. It will still linger for a long time, but one day you'll notice that he has not been in the center of your thoughts, every minute of the day. Eventually, you will go an entire day without thinking of him. When that happens, you'll know you are starting to heal. How is the new man handling all this? It's good that he's there for you, just be careful with HIS feelings. It will be a fine day when you slowly start breathing again. When the pain and feelings of loss start to subside. Right now, its unthinkable that it could happen. Trust me on this. I've had more than my share and each one seems like the end of the world. I can now look back on all of them and smile. The pain is gone. I still remember them, but they no longer have any power over me. And that will happen with you. I promise it will.