Pretender

Does your behavior bother you? Are you wanting to change?

If you want to stop acting this way but find you cannot, your best course of action is to seek professional help.

An experienced therapist can work with you to uncover the underlying cause(s) of your actions and guide you in learning how to present who you really are.

Unfortunately, depending upon the exact nature of your deception, you may find it necessary to get some new friends should your current friends be unable to accept the 'new' you.

Okay I could give you a huge therapy blabble or I can tell you this. I used to lie to all my friends, I guess in a way that makes me not their friend. I was the stereotypical funny kid, but there was nothing funny about me, in fact I had a horrible life. I laughed, I always cracked up, and I was the butt of everyone's jokes because Iput myself tehre. Finally I broke down and told everyonet he truth, and since then, those who were my real friends, my realtionships are so much stronger with them. You have to be honest.

What have I got to do to make you love me?
What have I got to do to make you care?
What do I do when lightning strikes me,
And I wake to find that you're not there.

What do I do to make you want me?
What have I got to do to be heard?
What do I say when it's all over
Honesty seems to be the hardest word?

It's sad, so sad
It's a sad, sad situation
And it's getting more and more absurd
It's sad, so sad
Why can't we talk it over
Oh it seems to me
Honesty seems to be the hardest word.

What do I do to make you love me?
What have I got to do to be heard?
What do I do when lightning strikes me?
What have I got to do?
What have I got to do?
Honesty seems to be the hardest word.

Jay

Lost, Here are your options. Keep living the lie or man-up!

Cultivate the habit of thinking before you speak.  Pause, slow down. 

Realize that what you say to others must be honest in order for you to be true to yourself.  And being true to yourself is the only way to go.  You are cheating yourself most of all, by being dishonest. 

 If you know that what you are about to share with someone is a lie.  Do not share it.  Stop.  Slow down.  Pause before you speak or act in an unhonest way. 

 Keep close tabs on yourself as you go through your days and soon, you'll be in the habit of being honest.  Not brutal, but honest in your remarks and your demeanor. 

Good Luck.  The fact that you care enough to want to change speaks volumns!!