Pregnant with another man's Child

Hi Melodys, ------- You are not going to like my answer but I have to tell you what I think. No, you don't love your boyfriend and you have no respect to him (if you lover him and had respect to him you wouldn't cheat !). So please don't say that you don't want to loose him..... Sure you can't even think of pretending he is the father (that is out of question !). If you want to have the baby leave your boyfriend and raise your child in a honest way. I truely appologise for being direct and blunt. ------- Best regards,

Well, you have (no pun) seriously screwed-up.  You only have two choices :  (1) have an abortion (either telling him or not telling him about it) and (2) come totally clean about the whole thing: telling him absolutely EVERYTHING.  Anything less than the total truth will backfire: I absolutely guarantee it.  Then it is up to him to decide what to do:  hopefully, he is a truly wonderful guy who can accept you AND another man's child.   If you try the 3rd route: having the baby and trying to pull it off as his - the odds are almost 100% that , at some date, the truth will come out.  SO, having totally screwed-up,  are you a big enough person to NOT take a chance on totally messing up 3 lives ( his, yours, and your baby's)  ?

Oh, brother. I agree with tyrebite, you screwed up BIG TIME! How ever did you manage to end up in such a predicament?

OronD is right as well, you certainly do not act as though you loved your boyfriend or else you would not have left him and then been intimate with another man.

You most definitely have only the two choices - abortion (telling or not telling, as you deem proper) or total truth to both men and take whatever consequences arise. If you cannot decide what would be best to do, I suggest you get immediate counseling so you will have time to determine your preference before it is too late to take action.

It is only too bad that the biggest victims in this mess are your boyfriend and your unborn child.

You have to accept whatever consequences you will face by telling the truth. You should not have cheated on your b/f. You are in the wrong here and deserve what you get. Tell him now,. get it over with & own up to your mistakes.

Be honest!.. that is the only way you can get over all of this.. you are 5 weeks and it is best you tell your current boyfriend you are pregnant and it is not his.. if you both come to an agreement of either an abortion ( which I am against).. or he may just be willing to be in the child's life.. you may never know.. best to be honest and let him know what is going on.. also contact the other male that you engaged with that caused the pregnancy.. if you lie to him and say it is his.. guilt is going to eat you on up.. trust me I know a woman who lied to her boyfriend and cried lots up to 4 months after the baby was born and had to let him know.. you don't want that to happen.. do what is best for that child.. don't lie.. be honest.. best wishes

Melodys, Never lie to him. The lie will carry over to your child and you never want that to happen. If you loved him really, you would not have slept with someone else. Have your baby, if you cannot handle raising him/her, there are lots of people who would love him/her. If the boyfriend stays OK if not OK.