Been married for 20yrs and in my early 50's. My wife and I are faced with making a decision and find ourselves unable to. We decided to back off and seek opinions from others. Here's the situation.
Sep 08 the company I worked for 8 years closed do to the economic times. I found another job by Oct, however this position has developed into one which I am not suited for at all. It is difficult to find inner happiness and peace at the end of the day. The position I'm in crosses certain values and ethics I find unacceptable.
With this in mind, I reflected back on happier times in my life early this year. In doing so, I realized how important the positive impact that my old boss from 9 years ago had in my life both professionally and personally. I decided to send him a thank you email with words of appreciation and recognition. Several months later, which was 3 weeks ago and out of the blue, he reached out to me asking if I would be available and interested in going back to work for him. His company is solid even in these tough economic times, offers a great salary with benefits and a relocation package. This is like a gift from the heavens. But here's the problem(s) why my wife and I can't make a decision.
This job is in the mid-Atlantic and in an area that doesn't suit us well do to the lifestyle and surroundings. We are currently in the northeast, have 23 acres in the country and LOVE nature and the relaxing style of small communities having character. Where the job is located is basically the opposite.
What compounds this matter is the loss we would take on selling our house in this market to take this job and relocate. Inquiring with local realtors and such, we stand to loose in the range of $130,000+ conservatively.
So, it appears to be a matter of long term security vs. living where we are happier, but at a job which I'm miserable in. The prospect of finding a position more suitable where we currently reside is years away - of course this is do to the economy we are all faced with.
We have discussed the pros/cons for 2 weeks and can't decide what to do. I need to give my answer tomorrow.
