Moved to be with a cheating boyfriend

Tell me you've actually caught him doing something. I wouldn't guess at what he's doing on the computer but if he's home at 4 P.M. and doesn't leave the house until he goes to work the next morning I would guess he's not seeing another woman. If you can't bring yourself to trust this guy until you actually catch him cheating I suggest you leave rather than continue to torture yourself. Another thing, do you think all the mistrust you're displaying is causing him avoid you and find other things to do rather than spend time with you?

If he is actually seeing another girl you will find out soon enough because those things don't usually remain a secret.

if you feel that way go with your gut feeling .he probably is cheating ,just sit watch for it. what happens in the dark comes out in the light

Maybe he's cheating and maybe he's not. This is what happens when you shack-up. After all you're not married. I think you should lower your expectations. If you don't trust him, move out.

kpop, you're entitled to your opinion but so am I, and in my opinion this is really bad advice. There's a difference between "shacking up" and living in a "commited relationship". By my definition "shacking up" is a temporary situation while "commited relationship" is the same as marriage but without the liscense. For reasons I won't go into here I lived in a commited relationship with my wife for 12 years before we were married and there's no way this was the same as shacking up. That did happen but it was prior to our decision to move in together and make our relationship permanent. I read the sentence below from walsh's post and applied my definition and to me this reads as "a commited relationship";

"and recently moved with a boyfriend that i have been long distance with.. and we moved in together got our own place."

Especially note the phrase "we moved in together got our own place." So your advice to walsh is to lower her expectations and move out when she doesn't even know if the guy has actually done anything wrong??? Marriage does not exclude adultery so if he is cheating, he could (and probably would) do the same thing with or without being married.

walsh, if you're reading this, you felt enough for each other to move in together and have a commited relationship so I'll repeat my prior advice;

"If you can't bring yourself to trust this guy until you actually catch him cheating I suggest you leave rather than continue to torture yourself" and "if he is actually seeing another girl you will find out soon enough".

Don't just act on suspicion and emotion, give the guy a chance.

I wouldn't say he's physically cheating, yet. The early hours, erased history on the computer, the erased phone messages hmmmm. The last time I saw that, turned up a long distance relationship. Sounds like he might be cheating on you emotionally. Hint: Cell phone numbers are listed on your cell phone bill. Since your already being torn apart, you might want to consider another move. I'm the last one who wants to accuse someone, but you must confront him, clear it up or move on. It really hurts when she gets bold enough to call you!

Father of 5 daughters here.  You need one pointer pointing you back home girl. This guy is a bum, leave him in your dust . Any man worth his salt does not cheat .