How Can Your Mind Do This?

Laurie,

Yes my mother was happy I was marrying him. Not what you mean, my Mother was strict but I had been in an affair before I met my husband and she knew I was sexually active and did not mention it. I never tried to block her, we talked about most things. She was not dead at the time but passed in 2004. And for the precognition, How would I know two of the words my granddaughter said when I had never heard from her or anyone else that she called that "her baby hole". I had to ask my daughter later that night what did that mean. So I can hear in my mind words I don't even know but are then spoken. These two times were definitely very traumatic for me, I am still getting over my best friend ever and he was also my companion. I will probably always be in love with him. My ex. totally got away with it, he is rich, and I ended up getting served papers that I can never be alone with my grandchildren again until they are 18 yrs. old. He did something very wrong, but through his attorney he was able to punish me. I have four grandchildren that I love so much and have always been very good to them, but I have to be surpervised in order to see any of them. He is  "NOT" nice person.

Unfortnately at the time all this happened my ex. and his "new" wife had temporary custody of my two granddaughters. My ex. had dropped my two and a half year old granddaughter and her sister who was 5 years old at my mothers' and asked me to be there with them. My mother was having surgery the next week and wanted to see them just in case. It was in fact he who told me that she needed her diaper changed, which I found odd because he never thought of those things. I believe it was his new wife who told him to tell me to do that. So first thing, I went about changing her diaper and she was very red down there and I asked her if anyone had touched her down there that shouldn't and that is when she said what she said. I could hardly take my next breath and then I said you mean when grandpa was changing a poopy diaper that is what happened, I avoided in any way of using any of the words she had said or encouraging her to repeat the words again and she said the same thing again. Her sister was next to me and I looked at her, she had tears runnig down her face and was shaking from head to toe and I asked her if she knew anything about this, she said,"no, Grandma". I asked her what is wrong honey and she said his wife had been spanking her little sister. I asked her why? She said, she misses mommy at night and cries for her and his wife spanks her until she stops crying. I was shocked, I got a wash cloth to wash my granddaughter whose diaper I was changing, my stepfather heard what my younger granddaughter said and said, if I heard what I think I just heard I don't want any part of this. I was overwhelmed. I just kept saying, what should I do, over and over and my best friend said maybe we should call her mother and daddy so we did. I immediately told them what had gone on and been said by the girls and I heard my daughter tell her husband who told my daughter to tell me to call the police. So, I called the police and told them what had happened and would they please send a lady police officer.  My daughter and son-in-law got there and the first thing my daughter said was, I know my dad didn't do anything. I said, then why did you have me call the police? She was mad about the spanking. At this point I just sat on my mom's sofa, my mother was on her place on the sofa and I was sitting on the end fairly numb. I was so concerned about my granddaughters, I had been afraid of my husband(ex.) for years. the police officer questioned my younger granddaughter  about what happened and used stuffed animals and she seemed like she knew what she was doing, and then she asked, "Did it hurt"? She said,infatically, "YES", I thought I can't take one more word of this  but I did. I just sat there. My daughter was there, so I just turned it over to her and her husband. Then as I'm sitting there I hear that her dad is back to pick up the girls. The next thing I hear is my granddaughter in the back yard just really yelling at her dad, he had promised that there would be no spanking because the girls were raised with time outs and were very well behaved little girls. My daughter was so angry. Then I heard the lady police officer say that they were just waiting for child services who would take her to the hospital and have her checked out but they would not be given back to her grandpa. We waited and waited and finally at 9:30PM this tall rather big man walks in and wants to talk to each of the girls seperately. He then takes each one outside in the dark to question them with my ex.husband and his wife right there listening. Both of the girls seperately cried and cried and did not say one word. The child services man had my ex. and his wife sign a paper that they would never discuss any of this with the girls and they could take them back to Greensboro. The police and detectives were shocked. They couldn't believe what happened. I just started to cry. I was so torn up. I was so worried about the girls and what they might do to them, what I had already heard  was so painful and I knew when I called the police that my ex would quit paying my alimony which was $17,000.00 a month. He never spoke to me again and I was sent papers to say he would no longer be paying the contractual alimony and that I was to never tell anyone about this or I could go to jail. But before that, I went home very upset that night, I prayed and prayed and cried. Not over the money, it was my granddaughter and his wife. I didn't know what she would do to them. The next morning, both my sons called me and told me that if I did not fix this that their dad could end up in prison. I'm not stupid, but what was going to happen to him or anyone else other than my granddaughters just didn't matter to me, until my son's said if I didn't fix it they would never have anything to do with me again. I asked them what was I suppose to do? They said they knew their dad would never do something like that and I should never have asked her if he did? I told them, I never said anything about him at all, my younger granddaughter was the one who brought him up and I told them exactly what I said and she said. Before long I had almost everyone in the family except my daughter, my mother, and my brother, who was a school teacher and said it would have been illegal for me not to report it to the police, mad at me. See my ex. was and is very wealthy. My daughter, me and my mother were so worried about the girls. My daughter for some reason had to go to my ex's attorneys' office and she heard her say that she had called child services that night and talked to the man before he came out to see the girls. When she realized my daughter was standing there she stopped the conversation immediately. It ended up with my ex. had to leave his "compound" for a week while child services in their town investigated and took them to their pediatrician and I received a call from a therapist if I would come and tell what had happened and I told him I would, just tell me when and where. When I told my daughter, I guess she told her husband who told my sons who told me I had better not go. So when the therapists called me I told him I could not go. No one knows except for me how terrified I am of my ex. No one but me knows how much I did love him regardless of how he treated me. But I drew the line at my grandchildren. I called child services and talked to the lady who was in charge of the case and she was so rude and hateful to me and basically called me a liar. After they left my mother's that night they never ever said another word about it. No matter how many times they were questioned after that weekend before the investigation started they would never say a word about it. It gives me chills to think what my ex. and his wife did to my sweet babies to stop them from telling the truth. They had always been such good girls, so carefree and loving and secure, they changed after that weekend. I was no longer able to talk to them, and my daughter and her husband had to jump through these ridiculous hoops in order to get their girls back. My daughter had gone inpatient on her own asking for help to get off of oxycontin that she was prescribed by her physician who was treating her for an injury she got right after her youngest daughter was born and the nurses told her she had to get up and go to the bathroom before she would be able to go home and so they helped her into the bathroom because one of her legs was still completely numb from the epidural and after she went she called them for help and no one would come and she got up to wipe and because she could not feel one side of her body waist down, she went down and hurt her back and hip. So months after going home with her new baby girl, she finally gave in and went to a doctor who was in a group of doctors who treated all kinds of back, knee, any kind of muscle or bone pain issue. He started her on the oxycodone and just kept increasing the dosages until her husband noticed that she would stop breathing at night and he would have to wake her to start her breathing again. So that is the real truth as to why she was in the hospital. She had asked me to take the girls and take care of them until she got out, well, my ex. and his wife along with my oldest son's and his wife's help picked the girls up from school took them to his dad's while his dad was with the attorney and getting legal papers drawn up so that he had temporary custody of the girls. I was frantic when I couldn't find the girls. My daughters husband, who should have been taking care of them, didn't want to so that is why my daughter asked me, I kept calling and calling my sons and their dad and every number I could think of and around 7pm that night my ex. called and said, I can't talk to you now, I will call you later, but my wife and I have temporary custody of the girls. I was beside myself as was my daughter when I had to tell her where they were. It was all a terrible nightmare, and my daughter and her husband who are now divorced have never once asked the girls anything about what her youngest said or did her dad or his wife do anything else to them. Well, I guess I wasn't suppose to, but on a visit I whispered to my oldest granddaughter if anything changed after they got back to Greensboro and she whispered that his wife started spanking her too. Do you know how hard it is to keep all of this to myself? What kind of a mother(my ex. and his wife had two girls of their own) could spank a child "until" she stopped crying because she missed her mommy? And about my ex. he is so afraid of his wife, and he didn't want to be bothered that I am not surprised at him and how he reacted at all. He gave his word to my daughter there would be no spanking and he broke his word. My daughter brought it up with him when she found out he had her girls because they especially his wife everytime you turned around was spanking one of their two girls very hard and my daughter had every right to be concerned. I just had to get some of that out. There is so much more. Believe me when I say, because of his history that only he and I knew it was not an impossibility that he did what his granddaughter said, secondly it is also possible that his wife told her to say that because she has always hated me and all of my children and grandchildren. This is a woman who had already been married twice and I had her investigated after I found out about her and actually talked to both of her ex. husbands and one of her ex. father in laws and my ex. wanted absolutely no more children. That is why we only had three, I wanted 4 to 6 children. She gave him her word that she was unable to have children, that is not what her ex.'s told me, and I told my husband, we were seperated but not divorced yet, and he defended her and said, I just didn't know what a good Christian she was, she was almost like an angel she was so good." SHe had gone after husband #2 in church and was still married to him when she went after my husband. It was all about the money. I believe that woman would do anything for money. So after our daughter had our first grandchild, a beautiful baby girl, he was just head over hills in love with her. That didn't sit well with his new wife and 1 month later she was pregnant. She said it was a miracle. Only they kept that miracle a secret until after she was in her fourth month so my ex. knowing how upset my children and I would be, wouldn't tell him she needed to not have that baby, or he needed to leave her for lieing to him like that. My children were hurt when they found out, I thought I was going to lose my mind, but the sadest thing was our youngest son. He was so hurt. After all he was the youngest and now he would not be special to his dad ever again. SO when I say she would do anything to hurt any of us, I know her and SHE would! You have no idea how hard it has been not to ask the girls why they stopped talking and telling the truth about that night, this has been since 2003. I want you to know he did stop my alimony, but is is August of 2009 and I am still in our house, no I don't really have any money maybe about $30.00 in my bank account but God has been taking care of me. He has continued to provide for me sometimes out of sad situations, and sometimes out of the strangest ways. But God has never failed me throughout this whole time. And I know because He is GOD and I believe  the Holy Scriptures are the WORD of GOD, that it says" what is hidden will be revealed". So at some point I will have the answer to my questions.

Unfortnately at the time all this happened my ex. and his "new" wife had temporary custody of my two granddaughters. My ex. had dropped my two and a half year old granddaughter and her sister who was 5 years old at my mothers' and asked me to be there with them. My mother was having surgery the next week and wanted to see them just in case. It was in fact he who told me that she needed her diaper changed, which I found odd because he never thought of those things. I believe it was his new wife who told him to tell me to do that. So first thing, I went about changing her diaper and she was very red down there and I asked her if anyone had touched her down there that shouldn't and that is when she said what she said. I could hardly take my next breath and then I said you mean when grandpa was changing a poopy diaper that is what happened, I avoided in any way of using any of the words she had said or encouraging her to repeat the words again and she said the same thing again. Her sister was next to me and I looked at her, she had tears runnig down her face and was shaking from head to toe and I asked her if she knew anything about this, she said,"no, Grandma". I asked her what is wrong honey and she said his wife had been spanking her little sister. I asked her why? She said, she misses mommy at night and cries for her and his wife spanks her until she stops crying. I was shocked, I got a wash cloth to wash my granddaughter whose diaper I was changing, my stepfather heard what my younger granddaughter said and said, if I heard what I think I just heard I don't want any part of this. I was overwhelmed. I just kept saying, what should I do, over and over and my best friend said maybe we should call her mother and daddy so we did. I immediately told them what had gone on and been said by the girls and I heard my daughter tell her husband who told my daughter to tell me to call the police. So, I called the police and told them what had happened and would they please send a lady police officer.  My daughter and son-in-law got there and the first thing my daughter said was, I know my dad didn't do anything. I said, then why did you have me call the police? She was mad about the spanking. At this point I just sat on my mom's sofa, my mother was on her place on the sofa and I was sitting on the end fairly numb. I was so concerned about my granddaughters, I had been afraid of my husband(ex.) for years. the police officer questioned my younger granddaughter  about what happened and used stuffed animals and she seemed like she knew what she was doing, and then she asked, "Did it hurt"? She said,infatically, "YES", I thought I can't take one more word of this  but I did. I just sat there. My daughter was there, so I just turned it over to her and her husband. Then as I'm sitting there I hear that her dad is back to pick up the girls. The next thing I hear is my granddaughter in the back yard just really yelling at her dad, he had promised that there would be no spanking because the girls were raised with time outs and were very well behaved little girls. My daughter was so angry. Then I heard the lady police officer say that they were just waiting for child services who would take her to the hospital and have her checked out but they would not be given back to her grandpa. We waited and waited and finally at 9:30PM this tall rather big man walks in and wants to talk to each of the girls seperately. He then takes each one outside in the dark to question them with my ex.husband and his wife right there listening. Both of the girls seperately cried and cried and did not say one word. The child services man had my ex. and his wife sign a paper that they would never discuss any of this with the girls and they could take them back to Greensboro. The police and detectives were shocked. They couldn't believe what happened. I just started to cry. I was so torn up. I was so worried about the girls and what they might do to them, what I had already heard  was so painful and I knew when I called the police that my ex would quit paying my alimony which was $17,000.00 a month. He never spoke to me again and I was sent papers to say he would no longer be paying the contractual alimony and that I was to never tell anyone about this or I could go to jail. But before that, I went home very upset that night, I prayed and prayed and cried. Not over the money, it was my granddaughter and his wife. I didn't know what she would do to them. The next morning, both my sons called me and told me that if I did not fix this that their dad could end up in prison. I'm not stupid, but what was going to happen to him or anyone else other than my granddaughters just didn't matter to me, until my son's said if I didn't fix it they would never have anything to do with me again. I asked them what was I suppose to do? They said they knew their dad would never do something like that and I should never have asked her if he did? I told them, I never said anything about him at all, my younger granddaughter was the one who brought him up and I told them exactly what I said and she said. Before long I had almost everyone in the family except my daughter, my mother, and my brother, who was a school teacher and said it would have been illegal for me not to report it to the police, mad at me. See my ex. was and is very wealthy. My daughter, me and my mother were so worried about the girls. My daughter for some reason had to go to my ex's attorneys' office and she heard her say that she had called child services that night and talked to the man before he came out to see the girls. When she realized my daughter was standing there she stopped the conversation immediately. It ended up with my ex. had to leave his "compound" for a week while child services in their town investigated and took them to their pediatrician and I received a call from a therapist if I would come and tell what had happened and I told him I would, just tell me when and where. When I told my daughter, I guess she told her husband who told my sons who told me I had better not go. So when the therapists called me I told him I could not go. No one knows except for me how terrified I am of my ex. No one but me knows how much I did love him regardless of how he treated me. But I drew the line at my grandchildren. I called child services and talked to the lady who was in charge of the case and she was so rude and hateful to me and basically called me a liar. After they left my mother's that night they never ever said another word about it. No matter how many times they were questioned after that weekend before the investigation started they would never say a word about it. It gives me chills to think what my ex. and his wife did to my sweet babies to stop them from telling the truth. They had always been such good girls, so carefree and loving and secure, they changed after that weekend. I was no longer able to talk to them, and my daughter and her husband had to jump through these ridiculous hoops in order to get their girls back. My daughter had gone inpatient on her own asking for help to get off of oxycontin that she was prescribed by her physician who was treating her for an injury she got right after her youngest daughter was born and the nurses told her she had to get up and go to the bathroom before she would be able to go home and so they helped her into the bathroom because one of her legs was still completely numb from the epidural and after she went she called them for help and no one would come and she got up to wipe and because she could not feel one side of her body waist down, she went down and hurt her back and hip. So months after going home with her new baby girl, she finally gave in and went to a doctor who was in a group of doctors who treated all kinds of back, knee, any kind of muscle or bone pain issue. He started her on the oxycodone and just kept increasing the dosages until her husband noticed that she would stop breathing at night and he would have to wake her to start her breathing again. So that is the real truth as to why she was in the hospital. She had asked me to take the girls and take care of them until she got out, well, my ex. and his wife along with my oldest son's and his wife's help picked the girls up from school took them to his dad's while his dad was with the attorney and getting legal papers drawn up so that he had temporary custody of the girls. I was frantic when I couldn't find the girls. My daughters husband, who should have been taking care of them, didn't want to so that is why my daughter asked me, I kept calling and calling my sons and their dad and every number I could think of and around 7pm that night my ex. called and said, I can't talk to you now, I will call you later, but my wife and I have temporary custody of the girls. I was beside myself as was my daughter when I had to tell her where they were. It was all a terrible nightmare, and my daughter and her husband who are now divorced have never once asked the girls anything about what her youngest said or did her dad or his wife do anything else to them. Well, I guess I wasn't suppose to, but on a visit I whispered to my oldest granddaughter if anything changed after they got back to Greensboro and she whispered that his wife started spanking her too. Do you know how hard it is to keep all of this to myself? What kind of a mother(my ex. and his wife had two girls of their own) could spank a child "until" she stopped crying because she missed her mommy? And about my ex. he is so afraid of his wife, and he didn't want to be bothered that I am not surprised at him and how he reacted at all. He gave his word to my daughter there would be no spanking and he broke his word. My daughter brought it up with him when she found out he had her girls because they especially his wife everytime you turned around was spanking one of their two girls very hard and my daughter had every right to be concerned. I just had to get some of that out. There is so much more. Believe me when I say, because of his history that only he and I knew it was not an impossibility that he did what his granddaughter said, secondly it is also possible that his wife told her to say that because she has always hated me and all of my children and grandchildren. This is a woman who had already been married twice and I had her investigated after I found out about her and actually talked to both of her ex. husbands and one of her ex. father in laws and my ex. wanted absolutely no more children. That is why we only had three, I wanted 4 to 6 children. She gave him her word that she was unable to have children, that is not what her ex.'s told me, and I told my husband, we were seperated but not divorced yet, and he defended her and said, I just didn't know what a good Christian she was, she was almost like an angel she was so good." SHe had gone after husband #2 in church and was still married to him when she went after my husband. It was all about the money. I believe that woman would do anything for money. So after our daughter had our first grandchild, a beautiful baby girl, he was just head over hills in love with her. That didn't sit well with his new wife and 1 month later she was pregnant. She said it was a miracle. Only they kept that miracle a secret until after she was in her fourth month so my ex. knowing how upset my children and I would be, wouldn't tell him she needed to not have that baby, or he needed to leave her for lieing to him like that. My children were hurt when they found out, I thought I was going to lose my mind, but the sadest thing was our youngest son. He was so hurt. After all he was the youngest and now he would not be special to his dad ever again. SO when I say she would do anything to hurt any of us, I know her and SHE would! You have no idea how hard it has been not to ask the girls why they stopped talking and telling the truth about that night, this has been since 2003. I want you to know he did stop my alimony, but is is August of 2009 and I am still in our house, no I don't really have any money maybe about $30.00 in my bank account but God has been taking care of me. He has continued to provide for me sometimes out of sad situations, and sometimes out of the strangest ways. But God has never failed me throughout this whole time. And I know because He is GOD and I believe  the Holy Scriptures are the WORD of GOD, that it says" what is hidden will be revealed". So at some point I will have the answer to my questions.