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tiger12

Mental health help. Pretty serious!!!

Hi, i've got a brother which is in my opinion crazy, and physciotic. He's 21, this problem started when he was about 13. As i'm younger than him by 1 1/2 years. While young he would be a sweet person, but just one day when he was 13 it all started. Getting angry, and destroying things. However to be specific and recent, the family went shopping out of town, and we still kind of play childish at times, he stepped on my foot, i tried to slap him back, and in the process he hit me in the nose by accident. To me everything was all fun and game, until he just asked my father for the keys to the car, and just basically destroyed everything that belong to me in the car like a jacket,etc. (It's like destroying this makes him happy and getting back at someone, when hes 21 bare in mind). This isnt the first time in which we've got into problems as such and maybe even worse. I was watching tv one time, and mother came home late was going to buy dinner and didn't, tries to take over me watching, and started throwing plates around the house when mom tried to calm us down, and i hit him first but that was in defense because he threw a plate past me, once that happened it like made him feel no pain like hes on some sort of drug, and wanted to continue fighting like an animal. I had to run to my grandmothers house, and he came over shortly after banging, and neighbors got scared and called the cops. Also when he gets angry he can stay agry for weeks, so on and so forth. I don't know what goes on in his mind, and im afraid that it might end up one day that you see something bad of a family murdered or something. I really don't know what to do or think and feel. Noone has control of him or anything, and even talks disrespectfully at my parents for the things he wants done (my father is watching tv, and hes like "go to your f**ing room". I mean its dangerous the way he is. Ever since his HS ended, he plays his computer almost 24/7, anti-social, hates people for little things done to him, fails or gets really bad grades in college, very demanding, doesnt value money, doesnt have a job, doesnt really care about anything except him and his computer. This is why i think like hes got nothing to lose, that i think will make him to bad things, i dont know how to help this situation or him, and what i can do to protect myself. P.S. I don't know if this is hereditary, because my father does have scitsophrenia (sorry for the spelling).

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Posted 2009-07-12T05:27:37Z
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jkgrandma

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Turn off the television and teach your children how to think.

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Hi Tiger12, it certainly sounds as though there may be some mental health issues involved.

But unfortunately, I doubt there is much you can do to help your brother if he does not want to be helped.

You mention that you are a year and some younger - have you finished high school? If so, perhaps you should consider moving out and/or attending college out of the area.

Certainly, it seems as though it may be wise for you to limit your interaction with your brother.

I understand you are concerned for your parents and grandparents, but there may not be much you can do along those lines, either; unless your parents are willing to insist that your brother receive medical help or move out (and follow through with any ultimatums they may give him).

The only other thing I can suggest is that you contact the authorities whenever you feel your brother is out of control. If he is deemed to be a danger to himself or others, I believe he can be involuntarily committed to a hospital for observation (though that may only be for 24-48 hours or so); but at least that would bring him to the attention of the authorities and perhaps lead to his getting some help.

I wish I could give you a better answer, but I am not a mental health professional and I don't know if there are any legal steps you can take to force the issue without your brother's consent.

As it is, I really think the best thing you can do is to get out and save yourself.

Good luck.

P.S. Is it possible that your brother is on drugs of some kind? Or perhaps steroids? If so, then that could be the cause of his rage and uncontrollable behavior (not mental illness).

Posted 2009-07-12T06:04:04Z

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hey thanks for the reply, and yes i've finished high school, i was planning on that of going away for college. However thats another year, because i want to finish my associates, and boost up my grades. Because i tried to run away from my problems of this before, and messed up horribly academically, im forced to finish up the 2yrs degree. My parents have mostly been in denial most of the time, my mom really wants to help the situation but doesnt know how to either. I know shes been put under alot of pressure, because she didn't know of my father problems until we were born. And as for my brother, i know if i get him sent somewhere my parents will be unhappy with the situation and with me.

No, my brother isn't on any types of drug, because doesnt even really have any contact nor goes out. And he's not on steriod because hes not really fit (based on my knowledge steriods get you big/buff). And as for saving myself, i really want to help my mom out to, but shes got no plans for divorce, because i know my mom and dad doesnt really have TRUE LOVE, they just stay togerther cause of us (kids), and because my fathers condition might make him take it serious and the wrost is probably thoughts of suicide. And to them their relationship is always money and money.

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Is there a family physician you could speak to?

I don't mean to get specific medical information about your brother (the doctor couldn't divulge that without permission), but to kind of touch base and share your concerns.

My thinking is that perhaps a professional would be able to provide some guidance on how to proceed - or perhaps even be able to convince your parents that something needs to be done about your brother; if so, then the information would not come from you so they would not be able to blame you for the outcome.

Posted 2009-07-12T06:27:11Z

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We'll my mother has found according to her a pretty good physician, and yes i believe i can speak to him/her about the situation, but my mother has spoke to the physician already and told about the problems. But, my brother himself wouldn't go see one (not that i asked him, my mother did and he doesnt want to seek help). Would you think it would be a good idea, if i go and presented this case, because i believe i know a bit more about him that my parent does?? So that possibly maybe my parents would be conviced as you stated that action must be taken?

My mother is confused at what she could, and should do. She really wants to help him, but doesn't know how to get the action taken, because my brother himself doesnt want to seek help. Because she really wants to cut the internet but doesnt do so, i guess because she thinks he might go insane, with all the extra time off his computer. And she wants him to move out, but i know my father will not handle the situation well. Whenever my father see's situations like this he gets depressed. As far as him handling the situation, he has been much of a father figure, i guess because of his problems, and i don't blame him.

Posted 2009-07-12T06:36:26Z

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It won't hurt to try!

Another thing you may want to do in the interim is to start keeping a written log of everything that happens regarding your brother.

So, you'd get a small notebook (something unobtrusive, but accessible) and log every incident that you personally are aware of (date, time, who's involved, what he did or said and so on).

That's just as a reference for later, in case you'd need it to show a doctor (or law enforcement or court official) a pattern of your brother's behavior.

Plus, it might help you identify cycles he may be on, as well as possible triggers for his behaviors.

Again, good luck!

Posted 2009-07-12T06:41:35Z

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Thanks so much, you have been so helpful. Also you've really calmed me down, because i am a bit paranoid cause of this unpredictable behavior. And thanks so much for listening.

Posted 2009-07-12T06:45:59Z

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It is a fact that when one parent has schizophrenia there is a 50 percent chance that an offspring will have it too. Or, the children could have another illness similar to schizophrenia. It sounds like your brother needs a lot of psychological help. As for you, you can always get an order of protection from the courts to protect yourself against your brother's rage. Maybe you should think about living with your grandmother. Your brother has an anger problem as well. Is he on drugs? This is a tough situation and I feel for you. I hope you find a solution to your situation. You also can benefit from therapy since you say your father is schizophrenic. I am sure you have a lot of feeings about that as well. Good Luck.

Posted 2009-09-17T12:31:48Z

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