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It recently came to surface that I cheated on my ...

It recently came to surface that I cheated on my husband. Him and I are working thru our problems. During the time that I was cheating my group of tight knit friends all broke apart. Although him and I are working-out okay, my old friends have made me a pariah. I was the one to hurt him and our marraige, I don't understand what I need to do to get my old freinds back. I was unfaithful to him, not my friends. And the person who I cheated with wasn't part of our social circle either.

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Posted 2009-04-17T00:05:29Z
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OhThePlacesYoullGo

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You have brains in your head, feet in your shoes, you can steer yourself in any direction you choose.

-Dr. Seuss

You have to understand that cheating makes you a certain type of person, and maybe your friends are upset with you, that you would stoop to a level like this. What you did isn't easily forgivable, even for your friends. You should try explaining to them how much you know what you did was wrong, and how important they are to you. You have to take responsibility for what you did though... you might not get your friends back, or your husband.

Posted 2009-04-17T06:58:01Z

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I can't blame your friends. Right now just start new friendships. You can't force your friends to be nice to you again.

Posted 2009-04-17T19:24:54Z

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Your friends feel as though you betrayed them as well as your husband. It also does not matter that the one you cheated with does not fit in your 'social circle,' that in and of itself sounds ridiculous. Cheating is cheating regardless of class systems. It does not make it less wrong. All you can do really is it give it time, let the wounds heal. You obviously stunned them beyond explanation. And should things fit back together, you must realize you have strained your relationships. With your friends, and MORE importantly, with your husband. Frankly, I am shocked that he is not your primary concern of those that should "forgive" you! Just be patient and hope for the best.

Posted 2009-04-17T21:42:58Z

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By cheating on your husband you also cheated on your friends. They feel that morally you are no longer in their league. While it may not be right of them to judge you, it is only human nature. Maybe now that your friends have stepped aside you will have more time to spend on the healing process with your husband. Good luck!

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