Loser

join a club or sport get involved

Don't be so hard on yourself. Just because you lack confidence does'nt mean you are a loser. A good way to start conversations with others is to be informed. A good way to do this would be by reading the paper, watching the news, watching programs on entertainment news, sports, etc. If you stay informed you will have  a broad spectum of topics you could use to start conversations or join in with others. As far as how you look and what your cloths are like, that does'nt make a hill of beans to anyone worthy of your interest. As long as you have good hygiene habits and your cloths are clean you should'nt be concerned with the people that would judge you on your appearance alone. Getting along on looks alone is very short lived in this life.  Go to your local library and check out some self help books. The only way to over come anything is to make an effort to change our views of ourselves and the world around us. Get involved with life. Volunteer  for something that helps others. The more we think less about ourselves the better we feel. Remember it is not how many people like us, it's the quality of the people that do. Once you achieve your goal you can help others on Yedda asking the same question.

It all has to start from within yourself. You need to start feeling better about who you are and the positive energy will radiate off of you and it will attract people. I know it sounds easier said than done, but it's the truth.

Remember that people who would judge you by the way you look or what you have are too shallow to waste your time on.  Try to be a good person, with honest, respectable values and other good people will be attracted to you.  They will be your friends because they appreciate what you are, and won't worry about what you aren't.

I know it's hard to see the "cool" people seeming to have all the fun, but believe me, they are just trying to mask their inner fears and ugliness.