Husband who just won't "get it."

I think what you have said has gotten thru but your still there. So maybe he thinks your just talking to scare him. Only when you leave will he believe.  My consern is "Do you think he will try to hurt you if you leave" You hear about men who shoot the wife and family when left. I don't want to scare you but have you thought of this?

I accept your position that the marriage is over and that you're only there until you can make the transition but is there's an advantage to his current actions versus the action of most men in this situation? I'm thinking of the usual emotional aspects such as abrasiveness, bitterness, resentment, jealousy and abusive attitudes men display toward women but in your case he's being nice. There are women who've been in situations such as the one I described above who would have given anything if their husbands had acted more like yours. There may be a kind of benefit to his action as you described below;  

"stop acting like nothing is wrong"

If he starts acting like things are as wrong as you say you may feel much worse than you do now. My advice, don't antognize him further, stay cool and get out as soon as possible.

When you say "I don't love you anymore" that cuts deep and the message gets thru, but I think he thinks he can win you back again. Is there anything he could do that would? Is there somebody else? Any children?  This is hard, it's like a death in the family. The male ego is a mighty thing and when crushed he might feel he lost face to his buddies and need to teach you a lesson. You know him better than anyone else. Has he ever been thru anything like this before?

Maybe if you have threatened this a long time he might just think you don't really mean it, you just keep saying it with no action. Just what are you waiting for? Are the kids still at home? Do you have family you can go too?

Hi, Your husband seems to be one of these people who say, "if i don't think about it maybe it'll go away."  He doesn't sound like he has enough self-esteem to stand his ground and tell you either he doesn't care, or that he hates you for even thinking about leaving. 

 Feeling the way you do, I believe I'd get out as soon as possible, nevermind the finances.  Surely, you can go to a friend's house or your parent's home, or go out one evening and go to a Women's Resource Center, or a Salvation Army, or similar place.  You might need to first go to the police and tell them of the situation. You may need the help of a friend to help you get your clothes out while he is at work.  Then simply do not come home.  barring the door is unthinkable to me.  Get away from this man,file for divorce and get on with the rest of your life... now.