Hello! I have recently been advised by my RE that egg donation is my only option. I am 43 1/2 years old... married exactly one year ago (first marriage for both me and my husband!) We conceived a few weeks after our wedding, which surprised me since my periods had been irregular (ranging anywhere from 20-60 days) for the previous 6 months (which I chalked up to hormonal changes from going off the pill). Unfortunately, I miscarried at 10 weeks... we knew that was likely as my early ultrasound at 5 weeks showed an irregular yolk sac. While devastated at the news, we took great solace in the fact that at least we knew we could get pregnant at our age!
Flash forward to now (one year later) and we're seriously contemplating egg donation. My FSH levels have consistently been 25-30 so a AMH was done as my RE explained that this test is more constant than the FSH which can fluctuate from month to month. My AMH result came back as .01 ... I now understand is about as bad as it can get. (Apparently, .07 is considered the lowest level of "normal")
Prior to getting the AMH results, we thought that we would like to at least attempt one round of IVF with my own eggs. Now, it seems that we would be wasting our precious time and money. My husband and I are both active and feel like we are in our late 20's or early 30's, but clearly that has nothing to do with one's egg quality or quantity! We very much want a family... we've been told by many friends that our ages will make adoption pretty difficult and will only get harder as time goes by. We want a family NOW!
Are we crazy to just throw in the towel and jump into egg donation? At this point, I'm actually kind of scared of the slim possibility of miraculously conceiving on our own because of probable poor egg quality since I'm 43, but still... what if? My RE has said that I will need to go on Lupron (sp?) to stop me from cycling on my own in preparation for syncing with a donor.... I've heard horror stories and am worried that once I go on Lupron, it's all over for what's left of my own teeny tiny ovarian reserve. While I know that full-blown menopause is right around the corner anyway, why am I so freaked about going on Lupron now? Ergh! Any advice or input would be extremely appreciated.
