Depressed in long term relationship

Read your post and then ask yourself "what am I doing with a guy who treats me like this" and you will know the answer to this question. I'm not suggesting it's easy to leave this guy (assuming you draw the same conclusion I did) but unless you think this is the best you can do you should make the effort.

Hey honey. I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Let me tell upfront- I'm proud of you for not leaving him. Your kids need you both. You need help, and here is where you can find it. It will be just easier to  give you the site address rather than trying to explain everything here. To get help with your relationship and/or depression go to www.FocusontheFamily.com VERY GOOD STUFF there. I've been there myself. As far as finance goes.... yeah at this economy you want to have more money than ever. I also found a way for you to stay home with your 2 kids and still make money very fast. Just go to www.YourDreamFuture.com to find out. Hope that helps. May God bless and prosper you!

Hi Emmy,
You are in real big trouble (I was really sad to read it).  Let me, please, be blunt and direct and sum up your situation: You love him, has 2 kids, he treats you badly, the relations are bad, he is verbaly abusing you, you would have left him long ago but you stay for the kids, your financial situation is bad.  My best advice is:
Step 1:  You MUST find yourself a job.  That will bring a big change in your life and give you freedom and confidence.
Step 2:  Realize that staying, in such a horrible loveless marriage is bad for you and for the kids.  (Do you really think they don't feel it ? do you really think they don't suffer ? do you really think that they'll knowm when the'll be adults, what is a normal loving fanily ?).
Step 3:  Tell your husband that you reached an important crossroads and have to decide: Either you (both) build a normal loving united family or.......
Step 4:  If he doesn't respond in the way you expect, you'll have to stand behind your words and leave hi for good.  It might mean that you'll have very hard time in the begining, but it's a must......
Please note that I didn't even hint that there is an option to stay with him as is..... That is sure NOT an option (either you solve it or you run away).  You sure deserve much more than you get. 
Best regards,

You need to first of all be able to stand on your own 2 feet. Find a job.. there are plenty of assistance programs which provide free job training, help you find a job and provide free child care. If you are low income you would also be eligible for cash, food & medical assistance. It's a start.. From there, just start saving as much money as possible and work on getting away from him. Being in love with someone is not a reason to stay with them. Having kids with them is also not a reason to stay with them.. there has to be more. You need respect, trust, communication, affection, and basically be "partners" who work together to build a stable environment for yourselves and your children. If 1 person puts effort into the relationship and the other person doesn't, it's either not going to work or you're going to feel stuck in a miserable relationship. Never stay with someone who disrespects you and treats you like crap. Life is too short. Work on becoming an independent woman who can do for herself. You'll feel so much better about yourself and will realize you are better off without him.