Actually, studies have shown that duaghters take after their Father's character/personality traits, and sons take after their Mother's.
My husband is 'bipolar". My daughter acts just like her Father, anger, controlling, temper, up/down moods, etc, and my son is quiet, even tempered, mellow and understanding, alway trying to be the one to make peace between them, etc. just like myself, and just like my own Father is. My Dad. is mellow, kindof withdrawn, quiet, even tempered, the 'peace maker' in the family, whereas my Mother, looses her patience/temper easilly, is controlling, outpoken, etc, just like my brother.
Infact, since I first heard about this, I started noticing this same pattern with everyone I know in both sides of my family and my husbands, family, There are so many similarities between Mother/son, and Father/daughter-it really is, totally true.
My childrens Father, was diagnosed 'bipolar', but had issues with his Mother, from childhood,that he never really outgrew. He always got his way when he was a child, because he would throw a temper fit and basically learned how to control other people with fits of rage and his mother always gave into him and gave him his way, to make him stop, This teaches a child to reason, that other people ought to treat him the same way, and live to please him,That whenever someone doesn't do what you want, you can make them do things "or else".
I have also seen so may other people who have this same issue, who say they are 'bipolar'.So, I really believe that 'bipolar', has to do with deeper issues from childhood and never really got the proper skills to cope with frustration and how to act when things don't go your way.
If you ask me, I say bipolar is actually an inner conflict inside the person and the character/personality genes/traits of their Father is so strong, that even if they around such things as you mention, it makes them that much more determined in their own heart/minds, to NOT want to anything like their abuser, and go the completer opposite way in life.
Besides, EVERY little girl, wants to be "Daddy's girl"
I know alot of people, who will tell you, that their parent was an alocholic, abusive, angry, meant, etc, and that they made a conscious decision while they young, "to NEVER become like" their abuser and chose to take an entirely different appraoch in life. Not only so they can heal from it, but so they can become their own person in life.
You gotta just put faith in these girls, they are making plans in their own hearts, to grow up and be better than and kinder to others, than their Mother was to them.
I was in that same situation as a child, Even at 7 years old, I remember telling myself, "I will NEVER EVER be like her when I grow up!! I'm going to be nice to my kids and treat them nice when I grow up!!!"
Kids know more and can actually be stronger people inside, than we sometimes give them credit for.
I'm 47 yrs old Mother myself, and from what I seen and witnessed myself, in my own children and in the lives of other people over the years, and also based on statisics, I would say that the chances of these girls taking after their Father is extremely high. Because I do know, that the bond between Father and daughter is very important, in a girls life, It gives her hope. And when she is older, she will look for the same character traits in a man as her Father. If that bond is broken, she will seek it all her life, in her relationships, with other men, trying to fill that need :)
