Hey thank you so much for taking the time to write. However, I did speak with him prior to writing all that. We are on the same page. I hate typing.....it sometimes gets misunderstood. He actually is cerebral and communicative. Still a guy! ;-)
I think we are moving along at a really good pace. He is one of the more healthy and stable men I've met in years. My past and my age do make me insecure. So when my mind does that....I try to get my own space and deal with it (NOT at him/never!!! I get that!) that's all and wondered if there were others and what they did about it. (main point in writing)
There was/is a bit of a porn issue. He's not searching for it at all. But a buddy of his is sending the really bad stuff. We talked about it. And he said he was going to tell his friend to stop. My past has marks of that in it...a previous man in my life lived a couple of different lifestyles putting me at risk. It was very bad. So "porn" has no place in my future. He knows how I feel about it.
Now, about a month ago, he said he would tell his friend to stop. I just saw that his friend sent him two new ones (about every week or so) with a XXXX in the subject line. I did not open them. I am patiently stepping back to give him some room to deal with it. I usually take a little time before reacting so as not to reach for the past but deal with what is.
