It is always difficult to have to approach someone close to you, regarding something which bothers you. The fact of the matter is, that the longer you go without addressing the situation, the longer things will stay the same, or get worse. I do not blame you for feeling hurt in this situation. My best advice, as difficult as it might be, is to approach your brother before the holidays. Tell him exactly how you feel, and be completely honest with him. If the best solution to this situation is that you tell him you are going to change the holiday routine this year, and he doesn't bring his kids over to get gifts, then that is what you will have to do. I hope, however, that your brother listens to you and acts like a man, by admitting his mistake over the past 10 years, and wanting to make a change for the better. Good luck, and I hope you have a better holiday this year, than those of years before.
